What Money Can’t Buy

By Mia Maysack, PNN Columnist

Just about everyone I've encountered has commented on their lack of cheer over the holiday season. I can relate to that in my own way, but also think we put too much pressure on ourselves to be appropriately cheerful when the calendar tells us to be.

I have been disheartened by the fact society presents the holidays as a joyous time, when they really seem to be more of an excuse to spend more than we should and consume more than we need.

This often results in people being rude in stores or driving recklessly, as if their lives are more important than anyone else's. We fixate on what we want or lack -- as opposed to what others may need. The holiday spirit should be less about us and more about what we can do for others.

Some of us are without our loved ones-- not just during the holidays, but literally every day. In the very house or apartment next to yours, there could be someone silently suffering. On our own streets, people are homeless or starving as we rush by them, too busy to care. On the other side of the world, there are innocent people effectively being wiped out via genocide.

I think it's absolutely okay that we are not all that jolly. In fact, if we were, there would be something extraordinarily wrong with that. This isn't to belittle anyone feeling joyful, it's solely a matter of keeping things in perspective.

Please take time in the new year to enjoy this opportunity to love yourself and appreciate those around you. If you are working, understand that your job is the dream of the unemployed. Reflect on what you've made it through and accomplished -- even if all you managed to do was live another year and survive.

Do something small to lift yourself up -- whether its fresh air, listening to music, making a tasty dish, or volunteering or donating in a meaningful way for another person.

There will come a day when the only things you long for are those that money can’t buy. There will be times when you'd give anything to revisit the past that came and went so quickly.

The only item on our holiday wish lists should be more time – time to optimally utilize the gifts we already have and to make the most of life while we still can.

Sending prayers to all of you for a safe, healthy and gentle 2024.

Mia Maysack lives with chronic migraine, cluster headache and fibromyalgia. She is a healthcare reform advocate and founder of Keepin’ Our Heads Up, a support network; Peace & Love, a life coaching practice; and Still We Rise, an organization that seeks to alleviate pain of all kinds.