By Carol Levy, Columnist
I am a creature of habits, some of them bad. Not the “I can't stop eating chocolate” kind of bad, but bad in that I don’t always follow my own advice.
For example, I have a bad neck and as a result lifting something heavy often leaves me with worse neck pain. Every time I lift something heavy, I hesitate and think, “You need to put on the neck brace first. You really need to do that.”
Then I get annoyed and tell myself putting on the neck brace would be too much trouble.
The fact that I leave the brace out on the dresser and it is easily accessible makes no difference. My neck is held together with clamps and screws. How can a neck held together with a bunch of metal not be able to pick up anything, no matter what it is?
The fallacy of that thought is proven each time I move something heavy. But I don't heed myself and I pick it up anyway. Bad habit #1.
Then comes bad habit #2. The neck brace is supposed to help hold up my neck. But even when I wear it, I fight it. A good example is what happens when I take out the trash
The containers are a little ways away from my apartment. I do not want to have to make a number of trips (there is always a minimum of 2 large bags and more often 3). At least one is filled with cat box litter and is always heavy. The extra weight turns me into a turtle. I automatically scrunch up my shoulders and lower my neck as I lift the bags, feeling that somehow makes me stronger.
It doesn't, of course. And once I am finished my neck hurts horribly and the pain exhausts me.
So why don't I learn my lesson? Why do I fight doing a really simple thing that will help me?
One reason is denial and the other is looking at the short term rather than the long. I have to make the decision to accept what I can and cannot do -- sometimes just out of sheer stubbornness -- if I want help myself and reduce the pain when and where I can.
It is a lesson so hard to learn because it comes out of an acceptance of our limitations. At the end of the day, it is not the physical things that I do or refuse to do that cause the pain. It is my refusal to accept. Then I’m not a turtle but an ostrich, keeping my head in the sand.
I wish they had a neck brace for that.
Carol Jay Levy has lived with trigeminal neuralgia, a chronic facial pain disorder, for over 30 years. She is the author of “A Pained Life, A Chronic Pain Journey.”
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