Gender Bias: Why Gynecological Pain Is Often Dismissed

By Elizabeth Hintz and Marlene Berke

For people with chronic gynecological pain conditions, pain can be constant, making everyday activities like sitting, riding a bicycle and even wearing underwear extremely uncomfortable. For many of these people – most of whom identify as women – sexual intercourse and routine pelvic exams are unbearable.

Endometriosis and vulvodynia, or chronic genital pain, are common gynecological conditions that can cause severe pain. They each affect about 1 in 10 American women.

Yet many women face skepticism and gaslighting in health care settings when they seek care for this type of pain.

We know this well through our research on social cognition and on how people with misunderstood health conditions manage difficult conversations with their doctors and family, as well as through volunteer work alongside people living with these conditions.

We’ve consistently found that medical gaslighting around chronic gynecological pain is a complex societal problem, fueled by holes in medical research and training.

‘It’s All In Your Head’

A 2024 study of patients who went to a clinic for vulvovaginal pain – pain experienced in the external female genitals and vagina – found that 45% of these patients had been told that they “just needed to relax more” and 39% were made to feel that they were “crazy”. A staggering 55% had considered giving up on seeking care.

These results echo what one of us – Elizabeth Hintz – found in her 2023 meta-synthesis: Female patients with chronic pain conditions frequently hear this “It’s all in your head” response from doctors.

Another study followed patients in two different major U.S. cities who were seeking care for vulvovaginal pain. The researchers found that most patients saw multiple clinicians but never received a diagnosis. Given the challenges of seeking medical care, many patients turn to social media sources like Reddit for support and information.

These studies, among others, illustrate how people with these conditions often spend years going to clinician after clinician seeking care and being told their pain is psychological or perhaps not even real. Given these experiences, why do patients keep seeking care?

“Let me describe the pain that would drive me to try so many different doctors, tests and treatments,” a patient with vulvovaginal pain said to her doctor. For her, sex “is like taking your most sensitive area and trying to rip it apart.”

“I can now wear any pants or underwear that I want with no pain,” said another patient after successful treatment. “I never realized how much of a toll the pain took on my body every day until it was gone.”

Medical Gaslighting

Many patients worldwide experience medical gaslighting – a social phenomenon where a patient’s health concerns are not given appropriate medical evaluation and are instead downplayed, misattributed or dismissed outright.

Medical gaslighting is rooted in centuries of gender bias in medicine.

Women’s reproductive health issues have long been dismissed as psychological or “hysterical.” Genital and pelvic pain especially has been misattributed to psychological rather than biological causes: A century ago, Freudian psychoanalysts incorrectly believed that female sexual pain came from psychological complexes like penis envy.

These historical views help shed light on why these symptoms are still not taken seriously today.

In addition to the physical toll of untreated pain, medical gaslighting can take a psychological toll. Women may become isolated when other people do not believe their pain. Some internalize this disbelief and can begin to doubt their own perceptions of pain and even their sanity.

This cycle of gaslighting compounds the burden of the pain and might lead to long-term psychological effects like anxiety, depression and post-traumatic stress symptoms. For some, the repeated experience of being dismissed by clinicians erodes their sense of trust in the health care system. They might hesitate to seek medical attention in the future, fearing they will once again be dismissed.

Although some chronic gynecological pain conditions like endometriosis are gaining public attention and becoming better understood, these dynamics persist.

Disparities in Funding and Care

Part of the reason for the misunderstanding surrounding chronic gynecological pain conditions is the lack of research on them. A January 2025 report from the National Academies found that research on diseases disproportionately affecting women were underfunded compared with diseases disproportionately affecting men.

This problem has gotten worse over time. The proportion of funding from the National Institutes of Health spent on women’s health has actually declined over the past decade. Despite these known disparities, in April 2025 the Trump administration threatened to end funding for the Women’s Health Initiative, a long-running women’s health research program, further worsening the problem.

Without sustained federal funding for women’s health research, conditions like endometriosis and vulvodynia will remain poorly understood, leaving clinicians in the dark and patients stranded.

As hard as it is for any female patient to have their pain believed and treated, gaining recognition for chronic pain is even harder for those who face discrimination based on class or race.

One 2016 study found that half of the white medical students surveyed endorsed at least one false belief about biological differences between Black and white patients, such as that Black people have physically thicker skin or less sensitive nerve endings than white people. The medical students and residents who endorsed these false beliefs also underestimated Black patients’ pain and offered them less accurate treatment recommendations.

Studies show that women are more likely to develop chronic pain conditions and report more frequent and severe pain than men. But women are perceived as more emotional and thus less reliable in describing their pain than men.

Consequently, female patients who describe the same symptoms as male patients are judged to be in less pain and are less likely to be offered pain relief, even in emergency settings and with female clinicians. Compared to male patients, female patients are more likely to be prescribed psychological care instead of pain medicine.

These lingering erroneous beliefs about gender and race are key reasons patients’ pain is dismissed, misunderstood and ignored. The very real-life consequences for patients include delayed diagnosis, treatment and even death.

Learning and Listening

Correcting these problems will require a shift in clinical training, so as to challenge biased views about pain in women and racial minorities and to educate clinicians about common pain conditions like vulvodynia. Research suggests that medical training needs to teach students to better listen to patients’ lived experiences and admit when an answer isn’t known.

In the meantime, people navigating the health care system can take practical steps when encountering dismissive care.

They can educate themselves about chronic gynecological pain conditions by reading books like “When Sex Hurts: Understanding and Healing Pelvic Pain” or educational information from trusted sources like the International Society for the Study of Women’s Sexual Health, the International Pelvic Pain Society and the International Society for the Study of Vulvovaginal Disease.

Although these steps do not address the roots of medical gaslighting, they can empower patients to better understand the medical conditions that could cause their symptoms, helping to counteract the effects of gaslighting.

If someone you know has experienced medical gaslighting and would like support, there are resources available.

Organizations like The Endometriosis Association and the National Vulvodynia Association offer support networks and information – like how to find knowledgeable providers. Additionally, connecting with patient advocacy groups like Tight Lipped can provide opportunities for patients to engage in changing the health care system.

Elizabeth Hintz, PhD, is an Assistant Professor in the Department of Communication at the University of Connecticut.

Marlene Berke recently completed her PhD in Philosophy at the Computational Social Cognition Lab at Yale University.

This article originally appeared in The Conversation and is republished with permission.

Pelvic Pain Patients Often Face Medical Gaslighting

By Crystal Lindell

Doctors are telling women with pelvic pain disorders to drink alcohol, learn how to relax, or get psychiatric care to treat their symptoms, according to a new study in JAMA Network Open. 

Researchers at The Centers for Vulvovaginal Disorders surveyed 447 patients pelvic pain, and found that medical gaslighting is common among doctors treating women with vulvodynia, endometriosis, interstitial cystitis and other pelvic conditions. 

The gaslighting was so disheartening that over half of the patients (52.8%) considered ceasing care because their concerns were not being addressed. Nearly 40% of the women said they were made to feel crazy, and one in five were referred to psychiatry without any medical treatment. 

Additionally, 16.8% of the patients surveyed felt unsafe during a medical exam. About a quarter of the doctors were belittling (26.6%) or did not believe the patient (20.5%). Many of the patients said their doctors lacked clinical knowledge about pelvic pain and were dismissive. 

The research also included quotes from patients who were surveyed, including one from a woman about a doctor who neglected her: 

"[I’ve been] told that they don't see anything or there is nothing there, despite that I was in severe pain and crying and had been in that provider's office almost every day for a week for these burning symptoms.”

As a pain patient myself, I have had the same experience. It’s difficult to explain to people who have never dealt with a long-term, complex health issue because most people still buy into the myth that doctors will do everything possible to help you. Unfortunately, that’s often not the case when it’s an ailment that’s difficult to treat or involves awkward topics like sex. 

One doctor dismissed the concerns of a patient about having sex, telling her that “intercourse is overrated anyway.”

I have to confess I was shocked to read that a doctor would ever say anything as ignorant as “intercourse is overrated.” It just proves that some doctors lack empathy, because there is no way a doctor would accept that response if an ailment was impacting their own sex life.

The same patient also complained about a doctor saying her discomfort was a normal part of growing older. 

“Providers that say 'it's just part of aging' don't address why it's not part of aging for my peers and even friends who are significantly older,” she said.

Which brings us to a common excuse that doctors use to dismiss patients of every age: You’re either “too young” to have a serious problem, or so old that whatever you’re experiencing must be “a normal part of aging.” 

This is evidenced by another respondent, who wrote: "I have had providers simply refuse to do tests on me because they said that I'm too young to worry about reproductive issues or that my pain is 'normal for young women' or that my pain is 'probably just stress.'"

One of the best ways to combat medical gaslighting and dismissive doctors is to spread awareness about it happening in the first place.

Those abusive tactics work because patients are often made to feel like they are crazy and stay silent. However, once they see that a doctor is talking to other patients the same way, it becomes clear that the patient is not the problem – the doctor is.

Researchers said their findings show “an urgent need for education supporting a biopsychosocial, trauma-informed approach to vulvovaginal pain and continued development of validated instruments to quantify patient experiences.”

In other words, the doctors need better training. And I couldn’t agree more. 

Patients don’t have the power to fix this problem on their own. It’s going to have to be the medical community that addresses it. And they can start by believing patients and showing some basic empathy.

Rare Disease Spotlight: Vulvodynia

By Barby Ingle, PNN Columnist

This month in our Rare Disease Spotlight we’ll look at vulvodynia, which causes chronic pain and discomfort around the vulva, the opening of the vagina. About 15 percent of women will have vulvar pain at some point in their lives.  

I first learned about vulvodynia a few years ago at a medical conference. It was described to me by a woman who has it as the feeling of a chain saw cutting into her private parts. Quite the visual description. It made me stop to pay attention.  

There are many causes for vaginal pain. These range from hormonal changes, nerve conditions, eczema, psoriasis, endometriosis, anxiety, depression, vaginal atrophy and vaginal dryness. Often, multiple causes contribute to vaginal pain. 

There are two main types of vulvodundia: generalized vulvodundia and localized vulvodunia. The latter is also known as vestibulodynia, which occurs when there is any kind of touch or pressure near the vaginal opening that causes irritation. Burning, stinging or itching can be triggered by tampons, cotton swabs, tight clothing, toilet paper and sexual contact.  

For women with generalized vulvodynia, the pain occurs spontaneously and has no known cause. Often we focus on women when we look at pelvic pain. But men can also experience pelvic pain and conditions. A similar disorder to vulvodynia is known as male genital dysaesthesia.

Vulvodynia can resolve within months or become chronic. It can be so painful that some activities feel unbearable, such as sitting for long periods, riding a bike or having sex. If you experience pelvic pain, you should avoid those activities until you see an OB/GYN doctor, physical therapist or primary care provider.  

Some of the symptoms of vulvodynia include vaginal dryness, itching, or inflammation. These can appear with pain in the vagina or pelvis. Pain can increase during sexual intercourse. It may also cause sexual dysfunction, uncomfortable tingling and burning pain.  

Fortunately, there are some potentially helpful treatments. These options include acupuncture, biofeedback, cognitive behavioral therapy, nerve blocks, nerve pain medication, and oral and topical analgesics. You can also try a pelvic floor therapy to strengthen and desensitize the pelvic region. Avoiding irritants and practicing good hygiene may also help. 

There are some new medications being developed in clinical trials for vulvodynia, but they could take years before they are available. In the meantime, physicians may provide patients with vaginal estrogen in low doses, as well as lidocaine. Systemic hormone therapy is associated with an increased risk of heart attack, stroke, blood clots and other complications. Be sure to talk to your provider about the risks involved with vaginal estrogen treatment before starting hormone therapy.

If you have vulvodynia, there are some private Facebook groups where you can get support, such as Vulvodynia Support and Vulvar Vestibulitis Syndrome (VVS) & Vestibulodynia & Vulvodynia Awareness. The National Vulvodynia Association is also a good resource.

So much emphasis in our society is put on sexual health, especially for men. Having lived through endometriosis myself, I know pelvic health is important. Women deserve good sexual health too.

Barby Ingle lives with reflex sympathetic dystrophy (RSD), migralepsy and endometriosis. Barby is a chronic pain educator, patient advocate, and president of the International Pain Foundation. She is also a motivational speaker and best-selling author on pain topics. More information about Barby can be found at her website.

Can Gabapentin Improve Your Sex Life?

By Pat Anson, PNN Editor

Over the years the nerve drug gabapentin (Neurontin) has been used to treat a cornucopia of chronic pain conditions, from fibromyalgia and diabetic neuropathy to hot flashes and shingles.

Gabapentin is so widely prescribed that a Pfizer executive once called the drug “the snake oil of the twentieth century” because researchers found it successful in treating just about everything they studied.

Add sexual function to the list.

In a small study, researchers at Rutgers University found that gabapentin improved sexual desire, arousal and satisfaction in 89 women with provoked vulvodynia, a chronic condition characterized by stinging, burning and itching at the entry to the vagina. Vulvar pain often occurs during intercourse, which leads to loss of interest in sex.

The improvements in desire, arousal and sexual satisfaction were small, but considered “statistically significant” in research parlance. Gabapentin did not improve lubrication or orgasm.

"Our theory was that reducing pelvic floor muscle pain might reduce vulvodynia pain overall and thus improve sexual function," said Gloria Bachmann, MD, director of the Women's Health Institute at Rutgers and lead author of the study published in the Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology.

"We found that women with greater muscle pain responded better in terms of pain and improved arousal than those with less pain, which suggests that Gabapentin be considered for treatment in women who have significant muscle tightness and spasm in the pelvic region.”

Does this mean gabapentin is a female version of Viagra? Not necessarily, says Bachmann, who stressed that the study only focused on women with vulvodynia.

“We didn't research the question of gabapentin enhancing sexual function in all women,” Bachmann wrote in an email to PNN. “The decision to give gabapentin to a woman who reports chronic vulvar pain and sexual dysfunction would have to be made on an individual basis, depending on her medical history and the results of her physical and pelvic examination.

“From the data, it appears that women with increased muscle tenderness of the pelvic floor may be the group who benefit most from gabapentin.”

Sales of gabapentin have soared in recent years — not because it improves sexual satisfaction — but because it is seen as a safer pain reliever than opioid medication.

Patients prescribed gabapentin often complain of side effects such as mood swings, depression, dizziness, fatigue and drowsiness.  Drug abusers have also discovered that gabapentin can heighten the effects of heroin, cocaine and other illicit substances, and it is increasingly being abused.