Does Having a Diagnosis Change How You Are Treated?
/By Crystal Lindell
A few months after I got my first official diagnosis of Ehlers-Danlos syndrome in 2018, I had an appointment with a new orthopedic doctor.
I was having really bad pain in my left shoulder that I injured while on crutches, which I was using as a result of a foot injury. It felt like I couldn’t catch a break.
There was a new EDS diagnosis on my patient intake form, which I assumed would be relevant in one way or another. I turned in the form and was led back to a patient room to go over all my symptoms with the nurse, before being left to anxiously wait in an overly air conditioned exam room to meet the doctor.
When he finally walked in, he didn’t bother to say hello. In fact, before he even introduced himself, he looked up from my patient intake form, scanned me up and down, and said in an accusatory tone, “So. What makes you think you have Ehlers-Danlos syndrome?”
The question caught me off guard. I didn’t “think” I had EDS. I had literally been diagnosed by another doctor in the same hospital system a few months prior.
“Um, well, I was diagnosed by a doctor who works here, and my mom has it, my brother has it, my uncle has it, and my cousin has it.”
“Oh,” he replied, before hastily trying to move on. But the tone had already been set. Instead of it being a meeting between patient and caregiver, it had shifted to a meeting between patient and accuser.
For many years, I had assumed that having an official medical diagnosis would change how doctors treated me. I spent five years blindly struggling with a chronic pain that had no name, desperately searching for a diagnosis or cause.
If only I had the validation of some sort of official medical diagnosis, then finally they would have to take me seriously. Or so I thought.
But here I was, getting a crash course in why that wasn’t going to be the case.
It turns out that doctors who try to dismiss you pre-diagnosis will also try to dismiss you post-diagnosis.
I also assumed that if I had a “real” diagnosis, my family, friends and professional contacts would be more willing to accept the pain that had been plaguing me for years.
But alas, that was not the case either. Explaining to them that I had Ehlers-Danlos syndrome resulted in zero changes in their behavior either.
What I did find is that people who empathized with my chronic pain pre-diagnosis also empathized with my pain post-diagnosis.
It turns out, it was never about the diagnosis.The people who sneered, judged and dismissed me before I knew I had EDS, continued to sneer, judge and dismiss me after I knew I had EDS too.
Where before they would try to blame their behavior on my lack of a diagnosis, they just found new reasons after I did have one. Their justifications turned to things like blaming my weight, calling me lazy, and lamenting that if I really wanted to get better, I would try more treatments and take fewer opioids.
I understand the personal toll it can take to deal with health issues without a diagnosis. And knowing that I have EDS helped me find online support groups and helped me better navigate my medical care. So I do fully support continuing the search for answers if you’re undiagnosed.
But as a patient who spent years in pain, both with and without a diagnosis, I’m unfortunately here to report that finally getting one probably won’t change how most doctors and loved ones treat you.
Because how they treat you has never been based on you – it was always just a reflection of themselves.