Toxic Stress Can Lead to Chronic Illness

By Dr. Lawson Wulsin  

COVID-19 taught most people that the line between tolerable and toxic stress – defined as persistent demands that lead to disease – varies widely. But some people will age faster and die younger from toxic stressors than others.

So how much stress is too much, and what can you do about it?

I’m a psychiatrist specializing in psychosomatic medicine, which is the study and treatment of people who have physical and mental illnesses. My research is focused on people who have psychological conditions and medical illnesses as well as those whose stress exacerbates their health issues.

I’ve spent my career studying mind-body questions and training physicians to treat mental illness in primary care settings. My forthcoming book is titled “Toxic Stress: How Stress is Killing Us and What We Can Do About It.”

A 2023 study of stress and aging over the life span – one of the first studies to confirm this piece of common wisdom – found that four measures of stress all speed up the pace of biological aging in midlife. It also found that persistent high stress ages people in a comparable way to the effects of smoking and low socioeconomic status, two well-established risk factors for accelerated aging.

Good Stress vs. Toxic Stress

Good stress – a demand or challenge you readily cope with – is good for your health. In fact, the rhythm of these daily challenges, including feeding yourself, cleaning up messes, communicating with one another and carrying out your job, helps to regulate your stress response system and keep you fit.

Toxic stress, on the other hand, wears down your stress response system in ways that have lasting effects, as psychiatrist and trauma expert Bessel van der Kolk explains in his bestselling book “The Body Keeps the Score.”

The earliest effects of toxic stress are often persistent symptoms such as headache, fatigue or abdominal pain that interfere with overall functioning. After months of initial symptoms, a full-blown illness with a life of its own – such as migraine headaches, asthma, diabetes or ulcerative colitis – may surface.

When we are healthy, our stress response systems are like an orchestra of organs that miraculously tune themselves and play in unison without our conscious effort – a process called self-regulation. But when we are sick, some parts of this orchestra struggle to regulate themselves, which causes a cascade of stress-related dysregulation that contributes to other conditions.

For instance, in the case of diabetes, the hormonal system struggles to regulate sugar. With obesity, the metabolic system has a difficult time regulating energy intake and consumption. With depression, the central nervous system develops an imbalance in its circuits and neurotransmitters that makes it difficult to regulate mood, thoughts and behaviors.

Though stress neuroscience in recent years has given researchers like me new ways to measure and understand stress, you may have noticed that in your doctor’s office, the management of stress isn’t typically part of your treatment plan.

Most doctors don’t assess the contribution of stress to a patient’s common chronic diseases such as diabetes, heart disease and obesity, partly because stress is complicated to measure and partly because it is difficult to treat. In general, doctors don’t treat what they can’t measure.

1 in 5 Americans Live with Toxic Stress

Stress neuroscience and epidemiology have also taught researchers recently that the chances of developing serious mental and physical illnesses in midlife rise dramatically when people are exposed to trauma or adverse events, especially during vulnerable periods such as childhood.

Over the past 40 years in the U.S., the alarming rise in rates of diabetes, obesity, depression, PTSD, suicide and addictions points to one contributing factor that these different illnesses share: toxic stress.

Toxic stress increases the risk for the onset, progression, complications or early death from these illnesses.

Because the definition of toxic stress varies from one person to another, it’s hard to know how many people struggle with it. One starting point is the fact that about 16% of adults report having been exposed to four or more adverse events in childhood. This is the threshold for higher risk for illnesses in adulthood.

Research dating back to before the COVID-19 pandemic also shows that about 19% of adults in the U.S. have four or more chronic illnesses. If you have even one chronic illness, you can imagine how stressful four must be.

And about 12% of the U.S. population lives in poverty, the epitome of a life in which demands exceed resources every day. For instance, if a person doesn’t know how they will get to work each day, or doesn’t have a way to fix a leaking water pipe or resolve a conflict with their partner, their stress response system can never rest. One or any combination of threats may keep them on high alert or shut them down in a way that prevents them from trying to cope at all.

Add to these overlapping groups all those who struggle with harassing relationships, homelessness, captivity, severe loneliness, living in high-crime neighborhoods or working in or around noise or air pollution. It seems conservative to estimate that about 20% of people in the U.S. live with the effects of toxic stress.

Recognizing and Managing Stress

The first step to managing stress is to recognize it and talk to your primary care clinician about it. The clinician may do an assessment involving a self-reported measure of stress.

The next step is treatment. Research shows that it is possible to retrain a dysregulated stress response system. This approach, called “lifestyle medicine,” focuses on improving health outcomes through changing high-risk health behaviors and adopting daily habits that help the stress response system self-regulate.

Adopting these lifestyle changes is not quick or easy, but it works.

The National Diabetes Prevention Program, the Ornish “UnDo” heart disease program and the U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs PTSD program, for example, all achieve a slowing or reversal of stress-related chronic conditions through weekly support groups and guided daily practice over six to nine months. These programs help teach people how to practice personal regimens of stress management, diet and exercise in ways that build and sustain their new habits.

There is now strong evidence that it is possible to treat toxic stress in ways that improve health outcomes for people with stress-related conditions. The next steps include finding ways to expand the recognition of toxic stress and, for those affected, to expand access to these new and effective approaches to treatment.

Lawson R. Wulsin, MD, is a Professor of Psychiatry and Family Medicine at University of Cincinnati. He also practices psychiatry in primary care settings, specializing in psychosomatic medicine.

This article originally appeared in The Conversation and is republished with permission.

Neurological Conditions Now Leading Cause of Chronic Illness

By Pat Anson, PNN Editor

The number of people living with neurological conditions such as migraine, diabetic neuropathy, epilepsy, stroke and dementia has risen significantly over the past 30 years, making it the leading cause of chronic illness worldwide, according to a new analysis published in The Lancet Neurology.

An international research team estimates that over 3.4 billion people – about 43% of the global population – had a neurological condition in 2021, replacing cardiovascular disease as the leading cause of poor health.

“The worldwide neurological burden is growing very fast and will put even more pressure on health systems in the coming decades,” said co-author Valery Feigin, MD, Director of the National Institute for Stroke and Applied Neuroscience at Auckland University in New Zealand.

“Yet many current strategies for reducing neurological conditions have low effectiveness or are not sufficiently deployed, as is the case with some of the fastest-growing but largely preventable conditions like diabetic neuropathy and neonatal disorders. For many other conditions, there is no cure, underscoring the importance of greater investment and research into novel interventions and potentially modifiable risk factors.”

A total of 37 disorders affecting the brain and nervous system were included in the study. Collectively, the nerve disorders are responsible for 443 million years of healthy life lost due to illness, disability or premature death, known as disability-adjusted life years (DALYs).

Tension-type headaches (about 2 billion cases) and migraines (about 1.1 billion) are the two most common neurological disorders, while diabetic neuropathy is the fastest-growing one. Painful stinging or burning sensations in the nerves of the hands and feet are often the first symptoms of diabetes.

“The number of people with diabetic neuropathy has more than tripled globally since 1990, rising to 206 million in 2021,” said co-senior author Liane Ong, PhD, from the Institute for Health Metrics and Evaluation at University of Washington. “This is in line with the increase in the global prevalence of diabetes.”

Over 80% of neurological deaths and disability occur in low- and middle-income countries, with western and central sub-Saharan Africa having the highest DALY rates. In contrast, high-income countries in the Asian Pacific and Australasia regions had the lowest rates.

“Nervous system health loss disproportionately impacts many of the poorest countries partly due to the higher prevalence of conditions affecting neonates and children under 5, especially birth-related complications and infections,” said co-author Tarun Dua, MD, Unit Head of WHO’s Brain Health unit.

“Improved infant survival has led to an increase in long-term disability, while limited access to treatment and rehabilitation services is contributing to the much higher proportion of deaths in these countries.”

Medical providers specializing in neurological care are unevenly distributed around the world, with wealthy countries having about 70 times the number of specialists as low-income ones.

Researchers say prevention needs to be a top priority in addressing the growth of neurological conditions. Some disorders, such as stroke and chronic headache, are potentially preventable by lowering risk factors such as high blood pressure, smoking and alcohol use.

The study was funded by the Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation.

12 Holiday Gifts for People Living with Chronic Pain and Illness

By Pat Anson, PNN Editor

Should opioids and other controlled substances be deregulated? Are health insurers and regulators interfering with the practice of medicine? What kind of pain care did President Kennedy get? Will cannabis help you sleep better? And whatever happened to Patient Z?

The answers to these and other questions can be found in PNN’s annual holiday gift guide. If you live with chronic pain and illness or have a friend or family member who does, here are 12 books that would make great gifts over the holidays. Or you can always “gift” one to yourself. Click on the book cover to see price and ordering information.

Doctor Bison’s Fables: An Allegory of the American Pain Refugee Crisis

Dr. Mark Ibsen uses animals as lead characters in a series of fables to convey the crisis faced by many pain sufferers in the U.S. Doctor Bison and his patient (an otter) are joined in a crowded exam room by a menagerie of other animals representing insurers, hospitals, regulators and law enforcement. All want to have a say in what Dr. Bison prescribes to his sick patient — resulting in little actual treatment for the otter.

The Silver Bullet Solution: Is It Time to End the War on Drugs?

Author James Gierach is a former Illinois prosecutor who believes the War on Drugs is the “worst public policy in the history of mankind.” Drug prohibition helped fuel the overdose crisis, caused mass incarceration, eroded civil liberties, and made healthcare unaffordable. Gierach’s solution is to end the regulation of controlled substances and change public opinion about drugs, much like what happened with the legalization of cannabis.

Chronic Pain Reset

Psychologist Afton Hassett, PysD, has compiled a list of 30 simple activities that people in pain can do to improve their lives — from mindfulness walking and paced breathing to healthy sleep habits and random acts of kindness. Perform one activity each day (in 15 minutes or less) and select the ones you like to develop a personalized pain management plan that may lessen your pain, and give your life more joy and a better sense of purpose.

Z’s Odyssey

In his sequel to “Patient Z,” author Stefan Franzen updates the personal story of a loved one with intractable pain who was unable to find effective treatment due to the crackdown on prescription opioids. Patient Z eventually found relief by taking buprenorphine, a widely misunderstood opioid that, when used in its purest form, can be just as potent as morphine.

The Chronic Pain Couple

Author Karra Eloff knows firsthand what chronic pain can do to a relationship. Pain disrupted her romantic and social life, and held her back from personal joy and professional success. To save their marriage, Karra and her husband made simple changes to improve their intimacy and agreed not let illness sidetrack their relationship. If you live with pain or love someone with a chronic illness, this book could help save or restore your relationship.

Burden of Pain: A Physician's Journey through the Opioid Epidemic

Dr. Jay Joshi went to prison for prescribing opioids to an undercover DEA patient posing as a patient. Now a free man and practicing medicine again, Joshi wrote this book as a cautionary tale for both physicians and patients, explaining how he fell victim to DEA misconduct and public health policies that portray doctors as drug dealers.

The Strange Medical Saga of John F. Kennedy

Dr. Forest Tennant looks at the life-threatening medical problems faced by President John F. Kennedy — which the public knew little about until long after his death 60 years ago. Kennedy nearly died as an infant from scarlet fever, and as an adult suffered from adrenal failure, failed back surgeries and autoimmune problems. Tennant says JFK would never have become president without high-dose opioids and a controversial drug cocktail.

CRPS: Learning About the Different Aspects of a Painful Syndrome

This is the fourth volume of a book series by Eric Phillips on Complex Regional Pain Syndrome (CRPS), a complex neurological disease that affects millions of people. The causes and symptoms of CRPS vary from person to person, making its diagnosis and treatment more difficult. After four decades of living with CRPS, Phillips says the biggest problem remains a lack of understanding about the disease by medical professionals. 

Cannabis Lullaby: A Painsomniac’s Quest for a Good Night’s Sleep

Health journalist David Sharp struggled for years with chronic pain and poor sleep caused by “painsomnia.” Then he ate a brownie made with cannabis and slept like a baby. In this book, Sharp shares what he’s learned about cannabis, how to shop for it, what strains work best, how to find the right dose, and who should — or shouldn’t — use cannabis.

8 Steps to Conquer Chronic Pain: A Doctor’s Guide to Lifelong Relief

Dr. Andrea Furlan takes a holistic approach to treating chronic pain, recommending changes in lifestyle, diet, sleep and mindset. Instead of taking opioids and becoming dependent on them, she believes pain sufferers can learn how to “rewire” their brains by controlling their emotions, recharging their bodies and educating themselves about the nature of pain.

Not Weakness: Navigating the Culture of Chronic Pain

After 20 years of coping with Crohn’s disease and autoimmune conditions, author Francesca Grossman finally realized she wasn’t alone after speaking with other women who also suffer silently from chronic pain. In this memoir, Grossman shares what she learned about living and loving with chronic pain while managing work, motherhood, friendships, sexual intimacy and medical gaslighting.

Heal Your Disc, End Your Pain

Dr. Gregory Lutz believes degenerative disc disease can be treated without drugs or surgery through the use of regenerative medicine — using a specialized concentration of a patient’s own stem cells to help heal tears inside the disc. Unlike other treatments for chronic lower back pain, which only provide temporary relief, Lutz says stem cells give long-term results.

These and other books about living with chronic pain and illness can be found in PNN’s Suggested Reading section.  PNN receives a small amount of the proceeds -- at no additional cost to you -- for orders placed through Amazon.

5 Lessons I’ve Learned About Chronic Pain

By Barby Ingle, PNN Columnist

Do you ever feel like your time, energy and hope are running out due to chronic pain or illness? That you aren’t living life to the fullest and may never be able to?

Many people who live with painful disabling conditions have that kind of fear and self-doubt. If you are struggling with similar thoughts, read along while I dive into the five most meaningful lessons I’ve learned about chronic pain.

I wish I had known these things when my journey through the American healthcare system began. I strive to be healthier and wonder if my wellness would be further along if I had known better from the start.

The good news is that changing today can affect your tomorrow. It is never too late to make improvements in your life. Whether you are a longtime chronic pain patient or just starting on your pain journey, these five insights may help save you some heartache and frustration. 

1.  Keep good medical records 

I have long been a proponent of keeping and updating your medical records.  Use technology to your advantage. Advances in health information technology make it easy to store and retrieve data, and facilitates the rapid exchange of patient information. This can help you file insurance appeals and when seeking prior authorizations.

When a provider closes down unexpectedly, having medical records from your patient portal either printed or downloaded in PDF form can also help you find a new provider. This is something I faced this year when my ketamine provider abruptly shut down.  

2.  Not all providers are equal 

Learn everything you can about your illness and keep learning. It is also essential to seek specialists who know about your complex medical condition.

People often look up to their doctors and put total faith in them. However, most doctors are educated and trained in only one specialty in the practice of medicine. Just because a doctor is a neurologist doesn’t mean they can treat diabetic neuropathy, multiple sclerosis or Lyme disease. 

Providers may have expertise in treating one or two conditions, and know only a little about others. With thousands of diseases, conditions and treatments, no provider can know them all in-depth. Learn about your provider's experience and limitations, and encourage them to seek additional knowledge from their peers to help you. Communication is the key to improving trust and faith in your treating doctors.

3.  Your diagnosis does not define you 

In medicine, a diagnosis refers to a specific disease or illness, but not the characteristics of each patient. A condition may present itself and progress differently, depending on the patient’s genetics, lifestyle and environment.

I was once given a diagnosis of thoracic outlet syndrome (TOS) when I was exhausted, over-treated, and scared. It turned out that was an incorrect diagnosis and that the TOS-like symptoms I was having were secondary to the real cause: Reflex Sympathetic Dystrophy (RSD).  

We need to be careful not to jump to easy conclusions. I also realized I had to stop comparing my symptoms and outcomes to others with the same condition. I turned my focus on creating the best me I could be. 

4.  If something is too challenging, break it into smaller pieces 

Do the more manageable actions first, and then see what is left to conquer.

Tackling one problem – like organizing medical records from a single provider -- can give you the positive momentum to take on the more challenging ones. If you find yourself having difficulty -- stop, take a break and work on something else. Get that feeling of success (and the endorphins that come with it), and return to the challenge when you are ready for it. 

5.  Share your journey 

Each of our journeys are unique, but hearing someone else’s experience can offer us hope, options, and ideas that we can use to improve our own lives.

For example, I’ve found that hydration is super essential for coping with RSD. My primary care doctor said I should drink water regularly to help regulate my body temperature, keep my joints lubricated, prevent infections, replace nutrients in my cells, and to keep my organs functioning correctly.

He was right. I learned that when I consistently drink 60-70 oz. of water daily, take my medications on time, and do light stretching, my sleep, cognition and mood also improve.

Continue to share and cultivate habits that support your long-term health and happiness. The more we know, the better our decisions will be. I’ve dedicated my life to helping people with chronic conditions have happier and more meaningful lives. The key is to believe in yourself while building the life that you want. After helping thousands of people worldwide and reading countless success stories, I am confident that you can do that.

Barby Ingle is a reality TV personality living with multiple rare and chronic diseases. She is a chronic pain educator, patient advocate, motivational speaker, and best-selling author on pain topics. Barby has received over 25 awards for her advocacy efforts. You can follow her at www.barbyingle.com.    

How to Live Longer and Healthier with Chronic Illness

By Barby Ingle, PNN Columnist

Have you ever wondered what living with chronic illness or a rare disease does to your lifespan? I have.

My primary care doctor recently conducted a seminar about living longer and healthier. He gave the attendees a great resource: a “health span” guide that outlines five ways to enhance your day-to-day life and live longer. The guide got me thinking. As a person with rare diseases and chronic pain, can they help me achieve my goal of living to 100 years old? 

Step 1 of the guide is to eat a Mediterranean-style diet. Studies show that people who eat a diet rich in fruits, vegetables, fish, whole grains, nuts and legumes live longer and have fewer instances of type 2 diabetes, obesity, heart disease and cancer.

I believe in individualized care for my health. As I have talked about in the past, I did microbiome testing to assess my gut health, using an at-home test made by a company called Viome. The results I received revealed that many of the fruits, veggies and nuts that I loved were not suitable for me because of my genetics. My DNA would rather have me eat a rack of lamb than a tomato!

I think getting that kind of detailed, personalized health information is better than following a one-size-fits-all diet.

Step 2 of the health span guide is to exercise often. It states that people who exercise between 2.6 and 4.5 hours per week have a 40% lower risk of dying. 

I have found that exercise means different things to different people. When I was younger, I was an athlete. Today, I cannot imagine doing a simple jumping jack. Nevertheless, moving as best we can each day, without going into a pain flare, sounds reasonable. That is what I strive to achieve.

I try to do what I can physically and not get too down on myself for the fatigue, pain and times when my body is dystonic. I hope that will be enough “exercise” to reduce the risk of other chronic illnesses, such as diabetes or dementia. I know people who have diabetes who were able to exercise, change their eating habits, and live longer. But my father, ten years after being diagnosed, still passed away early. 

Step 3 of the guide is to manage your stress and mental health. Those of us with rare and chronic conditions often have increased anxiety. Who wouldn’t be depressed learning how to live with a new normal? Chronic stress reduces life span and ages us faster from the chemicals and bodily changes that occur.

Step 4 of the guide is to make good sleep a habit, which is not easy when you have chronic pain. But a night with 7 or 8 hours of restful sleep can help reduce pain levels and lead to a better, more productive tomorrow.

When our sleep is disturbed long-term, it can affect our mood, organ function and contribute to an early death. I remember back in 2009, before I began infusion therapy, I tried many recommendations for better sleep, such as a warm drink before bedtime, having a set time to go to bed and wake up, and cutting out caffeine. After the infusions, when my pain was better managed, I realized just how bad my sleeping was and how much I needed 8 hours of sleep. Here are some tips for better sleep from the CDC.  

Step 5 of the guide is to build strong social circles. Having at least six different social connections each month has been associated with better health. I have found that people who are not chronically ill have difficulty understanding why we don't get better. They make comments like, "Are you still sick?" and "You’re still not feeling better yet?”

It is sad that it is harder for us to make and keep friends who are healthy and happy. A network of friends is essential for many reasons. This New York Times article on “How to Be a Better Friend” has some tips on how to improve our connections with others. 

I want to live longer and healthier, and to work towards it with good connections, preventative care and palliative care. We live in a great time when medical care and genetic testing are advancing, helping us live healthier. Being in the best shape possible to live past our potential expiration dates will help us enjoy our limited time here on earth. It all goes back to being the best you, so that you can fulfill your earthly purpose while participating in society. 

Living longer comes from individualized care and making the most of each aspect of your life. Changing how you live, respond, and act today can make your life longer and more meaningful.

Barby Ingle is a reality TV personality living with multiple rare and chronic diseases. She is a chronic pain educator, patient advocate, motivational speaker, and best-selling author on pain topics. Barby has received over 25 awards for her advocacy efforts. You can follow her at www.barbyingle.com 

12 Holiday Gifts for Caregivers and the People They Care For

By Pat Anson, PNN Editor

How do you take care of yourself when you feel overwhelmed taking care of someone with a disabling chronic illness? Can an anti-inflammatory diet help prevent migraines? What is “ableism” and how does it harm the disabled? Will they ever find a cure for long covid?

The answers to these and other questions can be found in our annual holiday gift guide. If you’re a healthcare provider, caregiver or you live with chronic pain and illness -- here are 12 books that would make great gifts over the holidays. Or you can always “gift” one to yourself.

Click on the book’s cover to see price and ordering information. PNN receives a small amount of the proceeds -- at no additional cost to you -- for orders placed through Amazon.

The Long Haul: Solving the Puzzle of the Pandemic’s Long Haulers

This timely book by Ryan Prior looks at how the Covid-19 pandemic left millions of people around the world with chronic fatigue, pain and other disabling symptoms. Many of these “long haulers” are now fighting for recognition and treatments for a puzzling new disease that could be challenging the healthcare system for decades to come.

Self-Care for Caregivers

In this handbook for caregivers, Susan White offers tips on how to maintain good physical and mental health, and how to avoid feeling angry, lonely and frustrated. Regular self-care is vital for caregivers, and means finding time to relax, rejuvenate and reconnect with others.

I’m Fine: A Practical Guide to Life with Chronic Pain

After a series of failed spinal fusions, author Toni Woodard has lived with chronic back pain for over 25 years. In this book, she describes how physical and emotional pain can impact work, relationships and mental health, and shares some simple practical lessons on how to manage pain and still enjoy life.

Raising Lazarus

The sequel to Dopesick, Beth Macy’s latest book takes a more nuanced approach to the opioid crisis, briefly acknowledging that many pain patients were harmed by the backlash against opioid medication. But Raising Lazarus primarily deals with Purdue Pharma’s corporate greed and the ongoing struggles of working-class people in Appalachia to overcome addiction and a healthcare system that doesn’t work for them.

The Migraine Relief Plan Cookbook

Author Stephanie Weaver spent years researching and interviewing migraine sufferers and healthcare providers about ways to relieve migraine pain through good nutrition. The result is this cookbook, filled with over 100 anti-inflammatory recipes for meals, snacks and drinks — all designed to help manage migraines, headaches and chronic pain.

Clinical Diagnosis and Treatment of Adhesive Arachnoiditis

It’s fair to say most doctors don’t know what adhesive arachnoiditis (AA) is, much less how treat it, which is why Dr. Forest Tennant wrote this handbook about the chronic and debilitating inflammatory disease of spinal nerves. The book will help clinicians understand the various causes of AA; how to diagnose it through lab tests, MRIs and patient symptoms; and how to treat AA through hormone therapy, good nutrition and medication.

The Nurse Practitioners’ Guide to Autoimmune Medicine

Dr. David Bilstrom wrote this book primarily to help healthcare providers diagnose and treat autoimmune disease — but patients will find it easy to understand. Chapters explore symptoms and diagnostic testing, as well as the stress, toxins, and hormone and vitamin deficiencies that cause autoimmune problems. Bilstrom takes a holistic approach to treatment, emphasizing diet and lifestyle changes over antibiotics and medication.

Wildest Hunger

The fourth in a series of paranormal crime novels by Laura Laasko, who lives with Ehlers-Danlos and Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. Laasko believes chronic illness is poorly represented in fiction, so many of her characters are given invisible illnesses like EDS to help educate readers about what it’s like to have a disability and manage its symptoms.

Year of the Tiger: An Activist’s Life

A collection of essays on living with disability by Alice Wong, founder and director of the Disability Visibility Project. Wong is a fierce critic of “ableism” — systemic discrimination and prejudice against disabled people, who are often defined and devalued by society for what they can’t do, as opposed to what they can.

Tao Calligraphy: To Heal and Rejuvenate Your Back

Dr. Master Zhi Gang Sha introduces readers to the ancient Chinese healing art of calligraphy, which professes to transform health, relationships and all aspects of life through positive energy and spirituality. This book focuses on healing back pain — and comes with QR codes that readers can scan to access videos that will help them rejuvenate their backs. Some reviewers claim just putting the book on their backs gave them pain relief!

The Hard Sell: Crime and Punishment at an Opioid Startup

Journalist Evan Hughes lays bare the inside story of Insys Therapeutics, a pharmaceutical startup that deceived insurers, corrupted doctors, and used brazen sales tactics to market Subsys, a potent and expensive fentanyl spray. The scheme made a fortune for Insys until federal investigators began looking into hundreds of overdose deaths and prosecuted company executives for drug trafficking.

The Song of Our Scars: The Untold Story of Pain

Chronic pain was a “distant, hazy concept” for Dr. Haider Warraich until he began experiencing it himself after a severe back injury. In this book, he explores the cultural and medical history of pain from ancient Greece through modern times — concluding that today’s healthcare system is broken and leaves many patients with chronic pain worse off than they were before.

These and other books and videos about living with chronic pain and illness can be found in PNN’s Suggested Reading section.

A Weird Trick to Get Doctors to Listen to You

By Crystal Lindell, PNN Columnist

There’s a lot of advice out there on how to get a doctor to take you seriously. Most of it is wrong.

Lucky for you, I’ve been in pain for a decade! Through trial and lots of errors, I’ve learned a few things and I’m happy to share them with you.  

First though, a little background on why you might need this information. It’s basically a rite of passage for chronically ill patients to lose their faith in doctors. We go in expecting Dr. Gregory House – the brilliant and grumpy lead character on the TV show House -- to solve the puzzle of our illness. Instead, we’re more likely to be met by a doctor with all of House’s hostility, but none of his determination.  

Doctors are notorious for downplaying symptoms, ignoring concerns, and blaming everything on the patient’s weight/smoking habit/stress/drug-seeking behavior.

They also tend to have a violent aversion to patients who suggest their own diagnoses. Their delicate doctor egos override any rational reaction and, more often than not, patients with chronic illness leave their appointments with no answers.

I used to think this only happened to women, but after attending multiple appointments with men in my family, I have come to realize that it’s just an across-the-board thing. My theory is that many of them became doctors so they can be seen as the smartest person in the room. And they hate it when patients treat them as equals, instead of the superior beings they believe themselves to be.

The problem is, a lot of patients tend to be really good at figuring out what’s wrong with their own bodies. They’re highly motivated to find answers, and they have more access to medical research tools then ever before in human history. Doctors love to mock Dr. Google, but that’s kind of like mocking libraries. Finding information online doesn’t automatically make it less valuable than finding it in a book.

Which brings us to the problem: Once we, as patients, figure out what might be wrong, how do we bring it up to our doctor without offending them?  

In short, it’s all about framing. You need to suggest that someone else is making you ask them about whatever it is you want to bring up. Let me share an example:

Do NOT say: “I think I have Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome.”

Instead, say: “My best friend wanted me to ask you about something. I don’t even think it’s a thing, but she thinks I might have something called EDS. Ehlers-Danlos syndrome, I think? I don’t know. It’s probably rare. But have you heard of it? Do you think I might have it?”

Here’s another example:

Do NOT say: “I think I have ADHD.”

Instead, say: “So my wife said I had to ask you about something. I don’t know if she’s right, but if I don’t bring it up with you, she’ll be really mad at me. She thinks I might have something called attention deficit disorder. And she said you might be able to help.”

Yes, I know, it’s annoying and demeaning. And you’re right, patients shouldn’t have to navigate medical conversations like this. They shouldn’t need to fake ignorance to get a doctor to help them.

But this column isn’t about overturning medical power structures. It’s about getting immediate results in what are often life-threatening situations. And I can assure you, this method works. I speak from experience. It is literally how I got my EDS diagnosis after dealing with chronic pain for years. I have shared this tip with others who have also used it successfully.

It works on every type of doctor, too. This is what you say to them:

To ER doctors: “My husband made me come here to get this chest pain checked out.”

To primary care physicians: “My roommate said I had to ask you about having my thyroid levels checked.”

To pain specialists: “My brother thinks I have rheumatoid arthritis and he wanted me to ask you about it.”

To psychiatrists: “My aunt said I should ask you about anxiety medications.”

This will not only help in getting them to take your symptoms seriously, it will also work on convincing them to order specific tests, offer specific medications, and consider a specific diagnosis.

This approach shifts the focus onto a third party, which helps doctors lower their defenses. If they think medical suggestions from patients are inane, you’re just feigning agreement with them. It effectively puts you on the same side as the doctor ⁠— the two of you against your loved one. Which is fine, because your loved one isn’t relying on them for medical care, so they can take the heat. And when the doctor feels like they’re on your side, they’re more likely to want to help.

This approach also means that the doctor knows you are likely to tell a third party what transpired during the appointment, which means they’ll be held to a higher level of accountability. That alone will often have a big impact on how they treat you.

Yes, it is wrong that patients have to use passive aggressive techniques just to get an MRI. But, as my mom always says, it’s better to be wrong than to be dead right. Sure you could insist on being more direct with your doctor, but if that doesn’t work — and the doctor dismisses your symptoms when they should be treating them — the choice could literally leave you dead. You’d be right, but you’d be dead right.

Hopefully, one day, patients won’t have to navigate their doctor’s fragile egos to get the care that they need. Until that day though, this will help. So go forth and be well. And if you can’t be well, at least be well prepared.

Crystal Lindell is a freelance writer who lives in Illinois. After five years of unexplained rib pain, Crystal was finally diagnosed with hypermobile Ehlers-Danlos syndrome. She and her fiancé have 3 cats: Princess Dee, Basil, and Goose. She enjoys the Marvel Cinematic Universe, Taylor Swift Easter eggs, and playing the daily word game Semantle. 

A Disabled Activist Speaks Out About Feeling ‘Disposable’

By Rachel Scheirer, Kaiser Health News

In early January, one of the country’s top public health officials went on national television and delivered what she called “really encouraging news” on covid-19: A recent study showed that more than three-fourths of fatalities from the omicron variant of the virus occurred among people with several other medical conditions.

“These are people who were unwell to begin with,” said Dr. Rochelle Walensky, director of the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

Walensky’s remarks infuriated Americans with disabilities, who say the pandemic has highlighted how the medical establishment — and society at large — treats their lives as expendable. Among those leading the protest was San Franciscan Alice Wong, an activist who took to Twitter to denounce Walensky’s comments as “ableism.” Walensky later apologized.

Wong, 47, moves and breathes with the aid of a power wheelchair and a ventilator because of a genetic neuromuscular condition. Unable to walk from around age 7, she took refuge in science fiction and its stories of mutants and misunderstood minorities.

Her awakening as an activist happened in 1993, when she was in college in Indiana, where she grew up. Indiana’s Medicaid program had paid for attendants who enabled Wong to live independently for the first time, but state cuts forced her to switch schools and move back in with her parents.

Wong relocated to the Bay Area for graduate school, choosing a state that would help her cover the cost of hiring personal care attendants. She has since advocated for better public health benefits for people who are poor, sick, or older or have disabilities.

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The founder of the Disability Visibility Project, which collects oral histories of Americans with disabilities in conjunction with StoryCorps, Wong has spoken and written about how covid and its unparalleled disruption of lives and institutions have underscored challenges that disabled people have always had to live with. She has exhorted others with disabilities to dive into the political fray, rallying them through her podcast, Twitter accounts with tens of thousands of followers, and a nonpartisan online movement called #CriptheVote.

Wong is nocturnal — she typically starts working at her computer around 9 p.m. On a recent evening, she spoke with KHN via Zoom from her condo in the city’s Mission District, where she lives with her parents, immigrants from Hong Kong, and her pet snail, Augustus. The interview has been edited for length and clarity.

Q: Why do you often refer to people with disabilities as oracles?

Disabled people have always lived on the margins. And people on the margins really notice what’s going on, having to navigate through systems and institutions, not being understood. When the pandemic first hit, the public was up in arms about adjusting to life at home — the isolation, the lack of access. These are things that many disabled and chronically ill people had experienced. Disabled people had been trying forever to advocate for online learning, for accommodations in the workplace. The response was: “Oh, we don’t have the resources. It’s just not possible.”

But with the majority inconvenienced, it happened. Suddenly people actually had to think about access, flexibility. That is ableism, where you don’t think disabled people exist, you don’t think sick people exist.

Q: Have you noticed that kind of thinking more since the pandemic began?

Well, yes, in the way our leaders talk about the risks, the mortality, about people with severe illnesses, as if they’re a write-off. I am so tired of having to assert myself. What kind of world is this where we have to defend our humanity? What is valued in our society? Clearly, someone who can walk and talk and has zero comorbidities. It is an ideology, just like white supremacy. All our systems are centered around it. And so many people are discovering that they’re not believed by their doctors, and this is something that a lot of disabled and sick people have long experienced.

We want to believe in this mythology that everybody’s equal. My critique is not a personal attack against Dr. Walensky; it’s about these institutions that historically devalued and excluded people. We’re just trying to say, “Your messaging is incredibly harmful; your decisions are incredibly harmful.”

Q: Which decisions?

The overemphasis on vaccinations versus other mitigation methods. That is very harmful because people still don’t realize, yeah, there are people with chronic illnesses who are immunocompromised and have other chronic conditions who cannot get vaccinated. And this back and forth, it’s not strong or consistent about mask mandates.

With omicron, there is this huge pressure to reopen schools, to reopen businesses. Why don’t we have free tests and free masks? You’re not reaching the poorest and the most vulnerable who need these things and can’t afford them.

Q: How has your life changed during the pandemic?

For the last two years, I have not been outside except to get my vaccinations.

Q: Because you’re so high-risk?

Yeah. I have delayed so many things for my own health. For example, physiotherapy. I don’t get lab tests. I’ve not been weighed in over two years, which is a big deal for me because I should be monitoring my weight. These are things I’ve put on hold. I don’t see myself going in to see my doctor any time this year. Everything’s been online — it’s in a holding pattern.

How long can I take this? I really don’t know. Things might get better, or they might get worse. So many things disabled people have been saying have been dismissed, and that’s been very disheartening.

Q: What kinds of things?

For example, in California, it was almost this time last year when they removed the third tier for covid vaccine priority. I was really looking forward to getting vaccinated. I was thinking for sure that I was part of a high-risk group, that I’d be prioritized. And then the governor announced that he was eliminating the third tier that I was a part of in favor of an age-based system. For young people who are high-risk, they’re screwed. It just made me so angry.

These kinds of decisions and values and messages are saying that certain people are disposable. They’re saying I’m disposable. No matter what I produce, what value I bring, it doesn’t matter, because on paper I have all these comorbidities and I take up resources. This is wrong, it’s not equity, and it’s not justice. It took a huge community-based effort last year to get the state to backtrack. We’re saying, “Hey we’re here, we exist, we matter just as much as anyone else.”

Q: Do you think there’s any way this pandemic has been positive for disabled people?

I hope so. There’s been a lot of mutual aid efforts, you know, people helping each other. People sharing information. People organizing online. Because we can’t wait for the state. These are our lives on the line. Things were a little more accessible in the last two years, and I say a little because a lot of universities and workplaces are going backward now. They’re doing away with a lot of the hybrid methods that really gave disabled people a chance to flourish.

Q: You mean they’re undoing things that helped level the playing field?

Exactly. People who are high-risk have to make very difficult choices now. That’s really unfortunate. I mean, what is the point of this if not to learn, to evolve? To create a new normal. I can’t really see that yet. But I still have some hope.

This story was produced by Kaiser Health News, which publishes California Healthline, an editorially independent service of the California Health Care Foundation.

Covid Made Healthcare Even More Difficult for People with Chronic Illness

By Roger Chriss, PNN Columnist

As the U.S. enters its third year of the pandemic, Covid is changing chronic illness care in important ways. Not only is long Covid being recognized as a new chronic illness, but the pandemic’s impact on hospitals, drugs and medical supplies, and everyday life for people with chronic illnesses is growing.

The CDC recognized the problem last year. Not only are people with chronic illnesses like diabetes, heart disease, chronic obstructive pulmonary disease (COPD) and kidney disease at greater risk of severe illness from Covid-19, the CDC says the pandemic has “raised concerns about safely accessing health care and has reduced the ability to prevent or control chronic disease.”

Hospitals have repeatedly had to delay routine care in the past two years. As hospitals run short on staff and beds, people whose medical conditions require regular care are struggling to keep appointments. NBC News reported last month that “prolonged lack of access to medical care because of Covid surges is having an outsize effect on patient care.”

The American College of Surgeons is warning that delayed elective surgeries “can lead to more complicated operations and longer recovery times because disease can progress during the delay.” Moreover, delays in cancer screening can lead to further progression of the disease and more complex surgeries.

Recently the American Red Cross put out an urgent call for blood donors because the pandemic and winter weather have combined to force the cancellation of hundreds of blood drives, creating the worst blood shortage in over decade. The “blood crisis” is so severe that doctors have to decide which patients will get blood transfusions and who will have to wait.

The pandemic has also impacted the drug supply for chronic illness. False claims about hydroxychloroquine being an effective treatment for Covid in early 2020 led to shortages for people with lupus and other autoimmune disorders who need the drug, which took many months to correct. In 2021, claims the anti-parasitic drug ivermectin could also treat Covid led to shortages.

Now in early 2022 the antibody drug Evusheld, which can help protect immunosuppressed people against COVID-19, is in short supply. NPR reported Evusheld is so hard to get that some hospitals are selecting patients by lottery.

Medical supplies are still difficult to find. While some people protest any form of mandatory face covering, masks have been a way of life for immunocompromised people for many years. A high-quality mask like a N95 can literally save lives, and such masks are still in short supply. The same for nitrile gloves and other simple medical supplies that may be essential for at-home care.

Covid is also impacting everyday life. People with chronic illness, in particular those with compromised immune systems, do not have the luxury of being “done with Covid.” The ongoing presence of a viral pathogen will limit them for the foreseeable future. Even when the omicron Covid surge starts to wane, they will need to keep using high-quality masks, weighing risks when going out, and tracking possible exposure.  

"There is a casual acceptance that the pandemic will turn into something endemic, an inevitability that ‘everyone’ will get COVID eventually,” disability rights advocate Alice Wong told NPR. “Leaders, medical professionals and public health experts have said something along those lines with zero acknowledgement that people will still die and those deaths will be disproportionately from high-risk groups.”

It has become trite to say that Covid mostly affects people with “comorbidities.” It’s important to note that comorbidities are found in the vast majority of people over 30, and that chronic illness is a fact of life for some people that cannot be cured. Covid impacts their lives in significant ways. Hopefully, public health officials can come up with new approaches that don’t require the chronically ill to risk more and endure more as the rest of the country tries to get back to normal.

Roger Chriss lives with Ehlers Danlos syndrome and is a proud member of the Ehlers-Danlos Society. Roger is a technical consultant in Washington state, where he specializes in mathematics and research.  

12 Holiday Gifts on Living With Chronic Pain and Illness

By Pat Anson, PNN Editor

Would you like to know how to avoid paying for inflated medical bills? Where and how to find a good CBD pain reliever? What really killed Elvis Presley? And just who is Patient Z?

The answers to these and other questions can be found in our annual holiday gift guide. If you live with chronic pain or illness and want to have a friend or family member get a better understanding of what you're going through -- here are 12 books that would make great gifts over the holidays. Or you can always “gift” one to yourself.

Click on the book cover to see price and ordering information. PNN receives a small amount of the proceeds -- at no additional cost to you -- for orders placed through Amazon.

The Pain Gap by Anushay Hossain

Anushay Hossain nearly died during 30 hours of labor in a U.S. hospital, her pain so severe due to a botched epidural that she shook uncontrollably. An emergency C-section saved her and the baby. That traumatic experience led Hossain to write this book about sexism and racism in healthcare, in which she shares the real life stories of women who have been “dismissed to death” by medical neglect.

The Strange Medical Saga of Elvis Presley by Forest Tennant

Ever since Elvis Presley’s death in 1977 at the age of 42, rumors have persisted about what happened. Did Elvis die of a heart attack or drug overdose? Dr. Forest Tennant sets the record straight with an inside look at Presley’s chronic health problems, including the possibility that he had Ehlers Danlos syndrome, a connective tissue disease that made it easier for Elvis to gyrate and dance — but ultimately may have led to his early death.

All’s Well by Mona Awad

A novel about a frustrated actress whose career is cut short by chronic pain. She reinvents herself as a college theater director, only to find her student cast is openly skeptical about her pain. To get revenge, she finds ways for people who dismiss her pain to experience it for themselves. Written by best-selling author — and chronic pain sufferer — Mona Awad.

Chronically Empowered by Jessica Cassick

This book is a collection of inspirational short stories told by 65 artists, entrepreneurs and advocates who all live with a chronic illness. Each author describes how they struggled to overcome the adversity that comes with a life-changing illness, and learned how to adapt and thrive through passion and advocacy.

The Way Out by Alan Gordon

Psychotherapist Alan Gordon believes pain sufferers can break the cycle of chronic pain through the use of Pain Reprocessing Therapy (PRT), a form of mindfulness and cognitive behavioral therapy. PRT is based on the premise that the brain can generate pain even after an injury has healed, and that people can “unlearn” that pain by forming new brain connections.

Patient Z by Stefan Franzen

A comprehensive and well-researched book by chemistry professor Stefan Franzen, PhD, that looks at pain, addiction and the opioid crisis through the eyes of a patient. “Patient Z” can’t find good pain care because opioid medication has been criminalized and the field of pain management hijacked by regulators, anti-opioid activists and drug companies. There are millions of people like Patient Z who are caught in the middle of a growing pain crisis.

The Essential Guide to CBD by Reader’s Digest

You know CBD has gone mainstream when the Reader’s Digest publishes a book about it. This beginner’s guide to cannabidiol explains how CBD works and various ways to consume it, with anecdotes from people who use CBD to relieve pain and over two dozen medical conditions, from anxiety and migraines to acne and PTSD. The book is easy to understand and backed up with research — with good advice on where to buy reliable CBD products.

Recovery from Lyme Disease by Dr. Daniel Kinderlehrer

A book for both doctors and patients on a tick-borne disease that has infected over one million Americans, about 20% of them becoming chronically ill. Dr. Daniel Kinderlehrer became infected himself, and used his background in holistic and internal medicine to develop an integrative guide to diagnosing and treating Lyme disease with antibiotics, disulfiram, cannabis and other promising new therapies.

Exercised by Daniel Lieberman

Harvard professor Daniel Lieberman looks at the evolutionary history and myths about physical exercise. While important for overall health, Lieberman says exercise in small doses — simply getting up and moving — can be just as effective as running marathons or becoming a gym rat. Even just learning how to sit properly can exercise core muscles, help keep you fit, and significantly reduce back pain.

An Anatomy of Pain by Dr. Abdul-Ghaaliq Lalkhen

Anesthesiologist Abdul-Ghaaliq Lalkhen takes a deep dive into how the human mind and body experience pain and adapt to it. Lalkhen says pain is a complex mix of nerve endings, psychology, social attitudes and a person’s tolerance for discomfort. Each individual and circumstance is different. While acute pain from a broken bone or injury is easily accepted by society, pain that becomes chronic is often misunderstood and stigmatized.

Drug Use for Grown-Ups by Carl Hart

Columbia University psychology professor Carl Hart says all recreational drugs should be legally available for adult consumption. A regulated drug supply with uniform quality standards would be safer, create jobs, generate millions of dollars in tax revenue, and reduce accidental drug overdoses. Hart believes current drugs laws are unjust and their enforcement often racist.

Never Pay the First Bill by Marshall Allen

ProPublica reporter Marshall Allen wrote this book as a “guerilla guide” for patients who want to understand and contest inflated medical bills. One of his unconventional tips is to bypass your health insurance by purchasing drugs and medical devices on your own, without the markup seen in some insurer-negotiated rates. Allen also explains what to do and say in the hospital to avoid paying for procedures that are unnecessary.

These and other books and videos about living with chronic pain and illness can be found in PNN’s Suggested Reading section.

COVID-19 Vaccines May Be Risky for People with Chronic Illness

By Roger Chriss, PNN Columnist

Covid-19 vaccine researchers reported good news this week. Pfizer and Moderna both announced encouraging efficacy data and will soon submit applications to the Food and Drug Administration for emergency use authorizations.

Moderna reported that its vaccine was 94.5% effective in a Phase 3 trial of more than 30,000 participants. Similarly, Pfizer’s vaccine had an efficacy rate of over 90 percent, with only 94 confirmed cases of COVID-19 in a study that included over 43,000 volunteers.

Both of these vaccines are based on mRNA technology, a genetic approach to vaccines that directs protein production throughout the body. AstraZeneca took a more conventional approach with its vaccine and just reported promising Phase 2 trial results.

There are of course important questions to sort out, including long-term efficacy and safety. This latter point is particularly important for people with chronic illness.

The vaccine trials have been run with volunteers, who may be more health conscious and healthier than the population at large, and people with specific disorders are excluded. As a result, safety issues for people in treatment for active cancer, people with autoimmune diseases, and people with rare genetic disorders are unclear.

“We also don't know for sure whether this vaccine is safe and effective in different types of people, such as pregnant women, the elderly, or those with a chronic illness,” MedicalXpress reported. “Once a vaccine is deployed ‘in the real world,’ we'll start to understand its true effectiveness. In practice, this is likely to be different to its efficacy in highly controlled clinical trials.”

Specific disorders sometimes require avoiding certain vaccines. The CDC maintains a comprehensive list of vaccine contraindications and precautions, including a recommendation that live virus vaccines “should not be administered to severely immunocompromised persons.”

The CDC cautions that anyone with a “weakened immune system, or has a parent, brother, or sister with a history of hereditary or congenital immune system problems” should talk to their doctor before being vaccinated. People who have had any other vaccines in the past 4 weeks should also consult with a provider first.  

The American Cancer Society recommends against live vaccines for patients getting chemotherapy or radiation treatment.

“In general, anyone with a weak immune system should not get any vaccines that contain live virus. There are a few vaccines that contain live viruses, which can sometimes cause infections in people with weak immune systems that can become life-threatening,” the Society warns.

Autoimmune disorders are also complex. The Hospital for Special Surgery warns that live vaccines “are not recommended for lupus patients, due to the increased risk of infection from the vaccine.”

Most vaccines are very safe for most people. But vaccine safety presents a big question for a small group of people with specific risk factors like cancer or chronic illness. At this point there is simply no safety data on COVID-19 vaccines in such people. Hopefully there will soon be clear answers.

Roger Chriss lives with Ehlers Danlos syndrome and is a proud member of the Ehlers-Danlos Society. Roger is a technical consultant in Washington state, where he specializes in mathematics and research. 

What I Learned About Meditation and Acceptance

By Mia Maysack, PNN Columnist

Recently I was asked how I've managed to deal with agonizing pain every day for over 20 years. The answer is far from simple, as it has been an extraordinarily long road that I'll continue to travel for the rest of my life.  

After over a decade of attempting mainstream remedies such as pills, injections, procedures and other therapies, I reached a point of hopelessness that led to contemplating the possibility of giving up. I had become tired and sick of being sick and tired. 

I still am! 

At the beginning of my holistic journey, I felt as though all my options were exhausted. Enough already with the corporate approach to medicine, along with being treated as either a drug seeker or experimental lab rat. 

To be clear, I'm tremendously grateful for all the avenues I've been able to travel, as well as the providers who did what they could to help me along the way. I am even thankful for the doctor who initially misdiagnosed my ear infection as “swimmer’s ear” -- even though it almost cost my life and led to a permanent state of discomfort. 

I wouldn't be who I am without those experiences, nor would I now be in this position to assist others in the treacherous journey that is chronic illness. 

Acknowledging grief, as real a symptom as the hurt itself, was a first step for me. I had to come to terms with knowing what I experienced was not a personal punishment, and also develop a relationship or coexistence with it that was mandatory for my survival.  

After growing in affirmation of those truths, I was then able to wrap my mind around acceptance. That didn't mean I liked the situation and I still don't! My illness doesn't define who I am as a person or where I'm able to go from here -- based on the things that I can control.  

This would be about the time some of you may question the merit of what I'm speaking about. So let me take this moment to break it down.  

Is an altered state of mind going to address or correct all my problems?  No.

Am I suggesting the idea that "positivity" cures?  Also no.  

I am reminded of a medical professional who endured a traumatic spinal injury and was told they'd never walk again. This began a four month long meditative process for this individual, who envisioned having surgery to the point of feeling its physical effects. Needless to say, they are not only walking again, but still practicing medicine.

Of course, there are things that cannot be "fixed." But shifting gears in how we think about a problem cultivates space for an opportunity to no longer dwell on what we're unable to change. Instead, we can invest and focus on what we can change.  

Dwelling isn't the same as grieving, so give yourself permission for having thoughts of "screw this!"  

Exploring new territory is what it means to be human. When we decide our experiences are opportunities for evolution, there's always a chance of merging onto an “on-ramp” that leads to personal growth and acceptance. 

That's another benefit of meditation that I encourage you to study for yourselves. When our bodily systems are more relaxed and we're breathing adequately, there's often improvement in how we’re feeling. Each moment consists of evolution because things are always changing, 

It took a while, but I've come to embody that same sort of energy. There's a lot throughout the world I can’t do very much about. But there are small things I can handle with great love, which includes coexisting with the different aspects of my life. Compassionate nurturing is a monumental and radical task, but it's vital and necessary.  

Mia Maysack lives with chronic migraine, cluster headache and fibromyalgia. Mia is the founder of Keepin’ Our Heads Up, a Facebook advocacy and support group, and Peace & Love, a wellness and life coaching practice for the chronically ill.

How to Rekindle Romance While Living with Chronic Illness

By Barby Ingle, PNN Columnist  

Living with chronic illness can put a strain on any relationship, particularly marriages. To help other couples, my husband Ken and I have I decided to share our learned wisdom on how to rekindle romance in a chronically ill partnership.   

My first suggestion is to keep track in your pain diary so that you can remember the details. Record at what point during sexual intimacy that pain occurred or increased, and what the circumstances were when your pain subsided. Putting your thoughts on paper can help you understand the underlying issues and complications, and regain control of your intimacy.

Although Ken and I did not use a therapist, there are techniques that a therapist will suggest that can help a chronically ill person normalize their symptoms, which boosts self-esteem and lowers feelings of isolation. Improved self-esteem can enhance virtually every aspect of your life, including strengthening your relationships.

A life change due to health problems can be a common trigger for lowering how you perceive yourself. The challenge is to identify that this is going on and create an intimate connection with your partner at the same time.  

Take a look at what you are doing. Are you alienating yourself or your partner? If so, why? Think about your behaviors and beliefs. Are they holding you back from intimacy?

Consciously thinking positive thoughts can boost self-esteem, but it takes practice. How you approach it can make all of the difference. Start with simple words and reminders to yourself. Then reconnecting with your partner will become easier. 

Rekindling romance could be as simple as a few words, a gesture, or a look or touch that will let the other person know you are okay. Be conscious of this each day, so that not a day goes by without a kind word or gesture, even if you are not having sex daily. And really, who does that when they’re in constant pain?

Try this the next time you are washing your hands at the bathroom sink: Write “I love you” on the mirror with a soapy finger or lipstick. This can help create an intimate moment.  

Be the one to take control if your partner is afraid that they will hurt you further because of your current pain level. Be sure to reach out and let them know you would like to have a sexual experience. Say, “Do you want to have sex right now?” or whatever cute, sexy or clever way feels natural to you.  Lead the experience to relieve their worry.

Spouses often have different sexual desires. Turning your desire totally off just because of pain can cause harm to your relationship. Your partner probably married you expecting a healthy sexual relationship. Holding back on intimacy can lead to the end of a marriage or even infidelity.

The last thing a chronic pain patient needs is more discomfort. But when intimacy increases pain and leads to avoiding sex or even cuddling, the relationship suffers. Don’t let this be the beginning of a vicious cycle of no sex.  

What can you do to increase the connection, romance and sex that you have with your partner? When you are talking, try to share your struggles about staying close. You can also share positive thoughts, such as sex helping you cope with chronic pain. 

I hope that these tips can help you rekindle any lost sparks with your partner. All those things you don’t say could be keeping you and your partner on different pages. Turn on the power of romance and make your relationship stronger.

Believe me, I understand how difficult it can be to push yourself to be romantic when all you want to do is sleep or cry from the pain. Having a close relationship physically with your partner can make a huge difference in many areas of your life.

Barby Ingle lives with reflex sympathetic dystrophy (RSD), migralepsy and endometriosis. Barby is a chronic pain educator, patient advocate, and president of the International Pain Foundation. She is also a motivational speaker and best-selling author on pain topics. More information about Barby can be found at her website. 

You Can Get PTSD From Poor Healthcare

By Barby Ingle, PNN Columnist

I thought I would be a cheerleader and coach my whole life... and I will, just not physically.

I had to adapt the mental aspects of cheerleading to living with Reflex Sympathetic Dystrophy (RSD), so I found a way to keep cheering despite my physical disabilities. I also had to deal with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) caused by poor treatment from medical providers.

Most people think of PTSD as something people develop during service in the military or in other stressful jobs. But PTSD can come from other traumatic situations, including chronic illness.

According to McMaster University, up to 60% of patients discharged from an ICU will suffer from PTSD. Symptoms can appear months after being hospitalized and may include anxiety, trouble concentrating, recurring flashbacks and nightmares.

My long-term providers have been great, but if I didn’t learn to get my emotions under control (mostly sadness from what I had lost due to RSD), I would not have gotten the care that I needed. I had to have a plan, stay organized, and on-topic when I went to the doctor.

Those are some of the lessons I’ve learned that help me cope with PTSD. I also get psychological help when I need it, rather than avoid the emotional stress, anger, fear and anxiety. I am not perfect at this. but I do recognize that I have PTSD and knowing it is half the battle.

It is important when setting your expectations as a patient to know if your provider is willing to add new treatments and procedures to their practice, so they can grow with your needs. Many providers will only suggest a single treatment because they make a living on that one option.

If they don’t like an alternative treatment, you may hear them say things like, “There is not enough evidence for that” or “You’ll have to do this before we can do that.”

Don’t get mad if your provider doesn’t offer a specific treatment that you want. Find one who does. Creating a supportive medical care team takes time, respect and trust in all of your providers. It is up to the patient to make their team, be involved with their care, and find the right providers.

The healthcare system in the United States is primarily set up for acute care, so navigating your way through it can be a challenge when living with a chronic or rare condition. Americans are taught as children to trust and believe in the white coats. You break a bone, get a strep throat or need stitches, you go to the doctor, get treated and leave.

I had to learn that's not always true when it comes to chronic conditions. Some ER providers don’t know how to help a chronically ill person in an acute care situation. They’re taught to take care of mental health concerns first, then physical ones.

When I changed how I talked with providers and stayed on track for the reasons I was there, I got better treatment. It took me almost three years to figure that out, but it is always possible to learn the tools and grow.

Here are four tips about going to the ER if you have PTSD from poor medical treatment.

1. Set good expectations for yourself and have a flexible plan in place. If they don’t provide the treatment you need, go to another hospital without a fight or confrontation.

2. Become aware of what they're saying and doing around you. Make a video or audio recording if that is allowed in your state. You can use it for documentation and to review later.

3. Improve your sense of self by knowing as much as you can about your chronic condition. Providers will notice if you are knowledgeable.

4. Keep it simple when dealing with the provider. Just like at a business meeting, if you put too many action items on the agenda, people will tune out or be overwhelmed.

Another tool is to learn about PTSD, how to avoid it, and about being gaslighted for having a chronic illness. Gaslighting is when someone tries to manipulate you and make you doubt yourself in order to do something that they want. I have been successful at skipping the gaslighting over the years. I think others can too, if they have the right tools.

As a patient, you can take control. I approach my healthcare with the attitude that providers are tools for me and that I am responsible for my own care. Being in control can help prevent PTSD and a host of other problems.

Don’t get mad. Go to another provider until you find the care you need. Especially when you feel wronged or not heard.

Barby Ingle lives with reflex sympathetic dystrophy (RSD), migralepsy and endometriosis. Barby is a chronic pain educator, patient advocate, and president of the International Pain Foundation. She is also a motivational speaker and best-selling author on pain topics. More information about Barby can be found at her website. 

Pain Patients Give Trump Poor Ratings for Handling of Coronavirus

By Pat Anson, PNN Editor

Is it time for the coronavirus lockdown to end? Should states, schools and non-essential businesses re-open? Like everything else in a sharply divided nation, the answers to those questions are often riven with politics, misinformation and distrust.

“The president is wrong about opening up our economy! Yes, it has to be done but it's way too soon, the active cases and deaths are steadily going up and he wants to throw people out into public? It's not the right time and he is fixing to kill a lot more people,” one person told us.

“They are in too big of a hurry to re-open everything and we will all suffer for that decision. My wife is an essential worker and I worry a great deal for her,” said another.

“I'm stunned how much of this country is not taking this seriously, from the top down. I am 59 years old, and extremely ill already from chronic Lyme and many co-infections. I am terrified of this virus because I am sure I will die from it,” one patient said.

Those are some of the responses we received from over 1,700 people in the United States to our coronavirus survey. The online survey was conducted April 6-20 by Pain News Network, the International Pain Foundation and the Chronic Pain Association of Canada from April 6-20. Over 2,200 people responded worldwide, the largest survey of its kind.

‘The Country is Overreacting’

All of the respondents indicated they have chronic pain or chronic illness. Many are also elderly and have compromised immune systems, which puts them at higher risk of severe symptoms and death if they become infected with COVID-19. Like many healthcare workers, many are still unable to get simple protective gear such as face masks.

If you think that would make everyone cautious about reopening the U.S. economy, you’d be wrong.

“The country is overreacting, and this is going to destroy this country financially and make it difficult to continue to get good healthcare if providers go bankrupt,” one person told us.

“People have to go back to work, life will be worse off if people lose their jobs,” said another.

“I think for the most part it is overblown and they are inflating the numbers on purpose. We should be opening businesses on a slow but steady basis, not based on the governors’ poll numbers,” another person said.

Asked how they would rate the U.S. federal government’s response to the coronavirus, over 55% rated it poor or very poor, while only 29% said it was good or very good.

How Would You Rate the U.S. Federal Government's Response to Coronavirus?

That dim assessment by U.S. residents is in marked contrast to how residents of other English speaking countries view their governments’ response to the pandemic.

Although the number of survey respondents in Canada (391), United Kingdom (51) and Australia (26) is far less than our U.S. sample — and not as meaningful statistically — they are much more likely to have a positive rating for their own governments. Canada’s response to the pandemic was rated good or very good by 55% of Canadians.

Governments Rated "Good" or "Very Good" for Coronavirus Response

State and Local Governments Rated Better

In contrast to the federal response, chronic pain patients in the U.S. have more favorable opinions about how their state and local governments are handling the pandemic. Nearly 48% said the response was good or very good, compared to 27% who rated it poor or very poor.

How Would Rate Your State or Local Governments' Response?

“It stuns me, the level of gross incompetence and general apathy of the federal government toward average Americans. Thank God for independent governors,” one person said.

“Trump and his administration have failed this country in every possible way. They wasted months of time they should have been preparing,” said another.

“The lack of preparation is disheartening! I know that these plans were available when this administration got into office and then all that went right out the window. This lead to many unnecessary deaths while they screamed it was nothing but a Democratic hoax,” wrote another patient.

“If our federal government was on top of this, we wouldn’t have as many people dying around the country. If we had Medicare for All, then we would have an adequate supply of PPE. My state governor did a good job of early lockdown, but the local response and local people did not,” said another.

“We have all been left to die of COVID-19 because the current administration refused to step up and behave like real leaders should. And I believe that many lives could have been saved had Trump done his job in the earlier months instead of lying about it and pretending it didn't exist,” another patient wrote.

“While bad, the media has once again blown it out of proportion. Another attempt to discredit our president. This year’s flu has killed more!” said a Trump supporter.

“Thank goodness Trump cut off flights to China when he did! Good job POTUS,” said another.

Conspiracy Theories

We didn’t ask people what they thought was the source of the virus, but many offered an opinion anyway. Some believe the coronavirus was engineered in a laboratory or is part of a larger conspiracy.

“The Wuhan Chinese worldwide pandemic is germ warfare started by China for economic reasons,” one patient said.

“I personally really believe that this pandemic was deliberately done by the government of China to bring the U.S., Canada, and other strategic countries down for a very easy takeover. I also believe that the Chinese already have the vaccine for this virus,” said another.

“I fear that this outbreak is being used as a way to destroy the American Constitution and Bill of Rights and allow the government to take over every aspect of our lives. I fear that people, in their terror, will allow the government to do anything it wants,” another patient warned.

“I strongly believe and feel that there is something much more sinister going on behind the scenes that is able to be carried out freely while everyone is shut/locked away in their homes,” warned another patient. “I just really believe that this is the absolute best scenario for them to setup extensive 5G systems networks. And there's got to be something else that they are planning for a new regime of control, greed and power over the world.”

“Conspiracy type stuff is intriguing but detrimental to my health. I've stopped exposing myself to it as well as to most news,” said another patient.

“I don't know what or who to believe!” was the opinion shared by several people.

And so it goes. Thanks to everyone who participated in our survey. If you’d like to see some of the other survey findings, click here. Stay safe and be kind to one another.